How to be happy

Learn to become happy in 100 days

1. Make a new friend (Keep close the old that you have)
2. Smile at strangers
3. Make time for breakfast
4. Make the most of your lunch break
5. Get active
6. Celebrate your body
7. Spend time with family
8. Walk to work
9. Write down your thoughts
10. Make tea for your office
11. Give someone flowers
12. Tidy up
13. Take a higher view
14. Do nothing
15. Finish a task
16. Take in some culture
17. Listen to music
18. Make time to chat
19. Get a pet
20. Try an adrenaline sport
21. Have a makeover
22. Flirt with someone (Only if you are single :D)
23. See old friends
24. Spend time with children
25. Share something
26. Reclaim a hobby
27. Change your bed sheets
28. Forgive someone
29. Have a Facebook cull
30. Listen
31. Dance like no one is watching
32. Volunteer
33. Get organised
34. Let out your artistic side
35. Help someone
36. Get your hair done
37. Give something back
38. Visit a sick person
39. Hope
40. Be honest
41. Go outside
42. Do something spiritual
43. Ride a rollercoster
44. Reaffirm your goals
45. Be silly
46. Raise money for charity
47. Meet new people
48. Contemplate mortality
49. Support someone
50. Quit your job (If you aren’t anymore happy)
51. Plan a holiday
52. Buy new clothes
53. Give a present
54. Take a road trip
55. Overcome a fear
56. See the wonders of nature
57. Eat something different
58.  Connect with your roots
59. Travel
60. Take some downtime
61. Start a new healthy habit
62. Shop local
63. Learn a new skill
64. Put yourself out there
65. Visit the library
66. Say sorry
67. Meet a newborn baby
68. Bring people together
69. Cut loose
70. -80 Let go

81. Make your peace

82. Write your own obituary

83. Go on a first date (Again only if you are single :D)

84. Say goodbye

85. Lie in bed and cry

86. Take the packet of pills out of your bathroom cupboard, stare at them, but then put them back again

87. Sit mindlessly on your living room floor, starring at the turned-off TV screen

88. Speak in public

89. Read old letters

90. Visit a grave

91. Reminisce

92. Have coffee

93. Have a wardrobe clear-out

94. Say thank you

95. Go to a party

96. Join a club

97. Take a step forward

98. Decorate your home

99. Send a letter

100. Tell the truth

Reclame

Ce te face fericit?

“Dacă s-ar pune întrebarea asta pe stradă, în faţa camerei, fără prea mult timp de gândire, am vedea foarte multe riduri de expresie. Sigur ar apărea multe mutre cu șăntuleţ între ochi dacă ne imaginăm așa, la un exerciţiu. Un fel de aoleo, ce le spun eu ăstora că mă face fericit, că nu m-am pregătit pentru astăzi?! De fericire ne arde nouă, fericirea e ceva serios, pe care te poţi baza, nu o frivolitate, trebuie să fie un sentiment profund, înălţător și emoţionant. (…)

Păi, se poate să umbli fericit pe stradă?! În plină zi? Să sfidezi atâţia oameni serioși, care nu cred că arăţi așa pentru că vii de la înot, să-i faci să creadă cine știe ce grozăvii despre tine?! (…) Se pare că fericirea asta născută de lucrurile pe care le faci sau le trăiești nu poate să apară în spaţiul public, e ca o boală rușionasă, e o perversiune greu de imaginat. (…)

Cultura fericirii nu prea pare să prindă cine știe ce, pentru că pericolul de a putea părea frivol sau neserios, copilăros sau chiar nebun este unul pe care multă lume îl evită încă de la primii pași ai copilăriei. Mai există un curent care te îndeamnă să te porţi normal, deși nu ești normal, să vorbești despre lucruri frumoase, deși nu trăiești nimic de genul ăsta, și să evoci fericirea ca pe ceva la fel de firesc precum curăţatul cartofilor.

Când am dubii , mă gândesc la unul dintre bunicii mei, un muzician desăvârșit, total absorbit de ceea ce făcea. (…)

M-am gândit foarte mult la el în ultima vreme, pe măsură ce tot întâmneam și întâlnesc oameni care nu zâmbesc și îi învaţă același lucru și pe copii lor. Nefericirea e, probabil, și o vocaţie genetică. (…)

Pentru mine, întâlnirea cu un singur om fericit de la sine, care trăiește pentru ceea ce face, e necesară și suficientă pentru a mântui restul. Dar e posibil ca nici mântuirea să nu mai fie ce a fost, nu?!

 

Fragment din cartea: Fericirea e un ac de siguranţă de Răzvan Exarhu

Recapitulare: Fericire

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Fericire

Mă întreb cine are parte de mai multă fericire? Cei ce au mai mult sau cei ce au mai puţin?

Fericirea este și va rămâne singurul numitor comun al omenirii!

Dacă nu știi ce te face fericit, întreabă-te de ce ești nefericit!

Cu toţii avem dreptul la fericire!

Nu contează gradul de nebunie și nici “doza” pe care trebuie să o luăm ca să fim fericiţi. De ce ar mai conta? Când ești fericit nimic nu mai are importanţă.

Nu putem gusta cu adevărat din fericire decât după un lung șir de dezamăgiri și multe clipe de agonie, suferinţă și tristeţe.

Vrem fericirea dar nu știm ce ne aduce nefericirea.

Ca să fii fericit trebuie să:

• te bucuri de lucrurile mărunte;
• trăiești fiecare clipă;
• îi ajuţi pe ceilalţi;
• faci ceea ce te pasionează;
• citești mult;
• limitezi orele în faţa televizorului;
• faci sport;
• îţi înfrunţi temerile;
• petreci timp cu familia și prietenii;
• știi când să spui: “iartă-mă”, “îmi pare rău”;
• te îndrăgostești;
• lupţi pentru visurile tale;
• fii fericit pentru simplu fapt că exiști.  Parcă căutăm ceva fără să ne mai găsim un rost.Căutăm fără să găsim și găsim fără să căutăm. Absurd nu-i așa?Fericirea este o stare. Depinde de noi de câte ori pe zi o “activăm”.
• Mulţi cred că dacă zâmbești ești fericit, împlinit, ai tot ceea ce-ţi dorești, nu-ţi lipsește nimic și nimeni. Puţini înţeleg câtă suferinţă se ascunde în spatele unui zâmbet.
• Fiţi fericiţi nu doar azi ci în fiecare zi!
• Poate că nu găsim ceea ce căutăm dar de cele mai multe ori se întâmplă să găsim ceea ce avem nevoie cel mai mult.
• Parcă am vrea, parcă ne-am dori, parcă am avea nevoie.
• Căutăm fericirea în lucruri mari, în lucruri mici, în lucruri efemere, în oameni, în noi, în locuri, în clipe de îndoială, în momente de amorţeală.
• Fiecare particulă din mine poartă un moment de fericire sau nefericire.
• Iar lista poate fi mult mai lungă de atât. Ai putea înlocui o listă a propriei tale fericiri.

Oameni și fericirea

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Fericire

“Fericirea este ca un balon de săpun care își schimbă culoarea precum irisul și care se sparge când îl atingi.” (Balzac)

Pacostea omului nu e că vrea să fie fericit, dar că vrea să fie fericit în fiecare zi a vieţii lui, uitând că Dumnezeu l-a învăţat că săptămâna nu are decât o duminică. (Ionel Teodoreanu)

N-am auzit încă… și nu cred că doi oameni pot trăi împreună și se pot astfel iubi cu adevărat, exact ca-n ceasul începutului, până la adânci bătrâneţe… și să moară tot fericiţi. Asta e o mare și insuportabilă minciună. (Constantin Parascan)

“Oamenii fericiţi nu au neaparat tot ce e mai bun în viaţă. Ei doar văd tot ce e bun în orice din viaţă.” (Arteha Levingston)

Haideţi să căutăm fericirea !

“Fericirea o găsim în: oameni, zâmbete, îmbrăţișări, în sunetul valurilor care se sparg la mal, în nori și în soare, în stele și în lună.” (Nicholas Sparks)

“Tu ești singurul care trebuie să se schimbe. Nimic nu vine din afară. Tu continui să cauţi încrederea în ochii celorlaţi…cauţi fericirea și soluţiile într-o lume care suferă de aceași boală ca și tine.” (Chris Simion)

“Omul este acela care își află fericirea doar în suferinţă.” ( Antoine De Saint-Exupery)

“Nu poţi fi fericit ani întregi sau zile-ntregi.”(Mircea Cărtărescu)

“Ești cu adevărat fericit când vrei să oprești timpul, să păstrezi acel moment pentru întreaga eternitate.”(Goethe)

“Fericirea unora se clădește pe nefericirea altora” (Pavel Coruţ)

Dacă sunt oamenii fericiţi pe acest pământ, pentru ce nu urlă, pentru ce nu apar în stradă să-și strige bucurua în ţipete nebune și neîncetate. De unde atâta discreţie și atâta rezervă? (Emil Cioran)

Oamenii nu sunt pregătiţi pentru fericire. (Liviu Cangeopol)

 

 

 

 

 

How can we achieve happiness?

The Greek philosopher Aristotle saw happiness as ‘human flourishing’, or ‘working towards virtue’. Is happiness achieved through selfless dedication, work, or in other ways?

Work connects us to others, building a happier world for everyone.

Five keys to happier living: giving; relating; appreciating; accepting; questing.

It is rare to find a selfish person who is truly happy.

Finding new avenues for your talents in new ways increases happiness- your own, and that of others.

Research shows that the happiness of a close contact increases the chance of being happy by fifteen per cent.

Happiness fuels success, not the other way round.

Our genetic make-up is thought to influene about fifty per cent of the variation in our personal happiness. The rest is up to us!

Giving money away makes people feel happier than spending it on themselves.

If you’re feeling sad, don’t pretend to be happy. Be yourself, and the mood will pass.

Ten minutes of meditation per day can help us be happier, more optimistic, and more spiritually aware.

The way we interpret life events has a bearing on our happiness.

If we can first found our true purpose, and then pursue it, we may find happiness.

At the heart of a happy relationship is good communication.

People who have a vocation in life tend to be happier.

A simple ‘hello’ to a neighbour can make us feel happier and more secure about where we live.

Giving support and receiving it from others helps us to be happy.

Think about how and when you experience feelings of happiness in your life. It’s different for everyone.

Identify the situations, places, and people that make you unhappy. Then avoid them.

There is no happiness without struggle.

Don’t pressure yourself to be happy. Instead, create a positive mindseat: be open, appreciate, curious and kind.

In modern times, happiness is seen as a private emotional state, achieved through self-fulfilment. Is spiritual enlinghtenment, rathar tan activity, the way to happiness? Or is it, perhaps, a combination of both?

Kindness to others boosts happiness. It increases life satisfaction, provides a sense of meaning, and takes our minds off our own troubles.

A single moment of happiness can rub out hours of misery.

In the sight of a blue sky fills you with joy, be happy, for your soul is alive.

Think of unhappiness as a job you’ve walked out on.

Success is never a measure of happiness.

All joy in this world comes from wanting others to be happy, and all the suffering from wanting only oneself to be happy.

Meditation can lead to structural brain changes thought to be associated with happiness.

It takes commitment and determination to be happy.

The path to happiness can be steep, difficult and stony, while the path to misery can be downhill all the way.

 

Today choose happiness

Happiness is about having the right frame of mind, not the right circumstances.

Solitude can be a friend and guide, leading you to happiness.

Bringing love, luck, and happiness into your life takes hard work. It doesn’t happen by itself.

Kindness costs nothing, and can bring so much happiness.

Don’t resist change- if you do, you will turn happiness to sorrow.

Concentrate on the task in hand. However trivial, you will feel happier if you do it well.

Happiness opens the arms and close the eyes.

Happiness is like a perfurme. You cannot pour it on others without getting a few drops on yourself.

Only moments of happiness stay with us.

A merchant’s happiness hangs upon chance, wind, and waves. (Japanese proverb)

Sleep soundly and happiness may visit you in your dreams.

The creative play of the imagination is essential to human happiness.

To boost happiness, watch young children play- and join in the fun, if you can!

At the peak of happiness, we stop thinking. Instead, we find peace.

Valuing others, and being valued, as part of a family, community, is a certain path to happiness.

Make a list of things that make you happy. You’ll find there are more of them than you imagined…

Can you draw how it feels to be happy?

Anyone who says sunshine brings happiness has never danced in the rain.

The art of happiness is like any other- the more you practise it, the better you get at it.

Happy people don’t gave everything; they make the best of everything.

Creativity is within everyone’s reach- no exceptions. And to be creative, even in a small way, can bring great happiness.

Build a happiness habit.

List five things per day that have made you happy.

There is a crucial link between happiness and altruism, or ‘regard for others’.

Try to notice when you’re happy.

The front left side of the brain is the part that registers happiness, wellbeing and contentment.

Make sure to exercise it!

Simple meditation can boost happiness. Every day, find a few minutes to sit somewhere quiet. Close your eyes, breathe slowly, and just watch your thoughts come and go.

 

 

Finding the way to be happy

Regular exercise boosts happiness, especially when performed with others.

A dog is a great comfort when you’re feeling unhappy, because it never asks why.

What makes us unhappy with ourselves is the exaggerated idea we have of the happiness of others.

 

Heal yourself with happy thoughts.

Don’t tell unhappy people how happy you are. Instead, use your happiness to help them…

You can find happiness in many different places. In the colours of a painting… in the clouds above your head…the earth under your feet… in the rosy pink sky of dawn…

and the pure white snow of winter…

Don’t refuse to accept the gift of happiness, just because you are afraid of losing it.

Happiness is a gift that cannot be bought.

If you approach work with passion and energy, it will help you to be happy.

Happiness is an adventure. Set out on it.

There are many roads to pleasure, but only one true path to happiness.

Happiness is curling up with a good book beside a crackling fire on a cold winter’s night.

Happiness is like a fruit- don’t eat it until it is ripe!

Sometimes we lose the key to happiness, not realizing that the door is always unlocked.

If we human beings had tails to wag when we’re happy, like dogs, we might understand each other better.

When we’re happy, we often don’t know it. When we’re unhappy, we always do.

If you have to ask what happiness is, you’ll never know.

A brief moment of happiness can lighten even the darkest despair.

Take a good long laugh at yourself…it may help to make you happy.

Don’t search for happiness itself. Instead, concentrate on the activities that make you feel happy.

Happiness can see you.

Can you see it?

Happy the man, and happy he alone, he who can call today his own, secure within, can say, tomorrow do thy worst, for I have lived today. (John Dryden)

To be happy in ife, it helps if you don’t think too much.

Happiness can make an ordinary sight beautiful.

The key to happiness is patience.

When you can think of yesterday without regret, and tomorrow without fear, then you are near to happiness.

A hearty meal, and good company to share with, is the perfect end to a happy day.

Happiness is not the fulfilment of what you want, but the realization of how much you already have.

There are short cuts to happiness, and dancing is one of them. (Vicki Baum)

Everyone deserves to be happy. It is within your power to become so.

Friendship is a cornerstone of happiness.

If you are a thoughtful, kind friend, you will be happier…whether or not your friends return the compliment.

 

Did you find your happiness?

Sometimes, when they come back home, they find it waiting for them on the doorstep.

Loving relationships are the most important factor in happiness. Next comes work, and the meaning it can bring.

You’re a long time dead, so be happy in the short time you have to live.

Travel along the road of love, for at the end of the road lies happiness.

Contentment is a pearl of great price, and whoever procures it at the expense of ten thousand desires makes a wise and a happy purchase. (John Balguy)

The smallest things in life bring happiness- watch a flower grow, or a bird fly by.

Happiness is contagious.

Happiness has a magical properties. It leads to long life, health, and resilence.

Watching a bee take nectar from a flower you’ve grown is a happy sight to see.

Like harmony in music, happiness is when every part of yourself comes together in agreement.

There is no happiness without dreams.

Being miserable involves certainty; being happy involves risk.

The story of wealth failing to translate into happiness is the story of the Western world.

Feel, show, and express your happiness, so that others can share it, too.

Even in a happy life, there are moments of despair.

Happiness, the thing we want most in life, is often achieved by giving it away.

Happiness is a natural outcome of being able to be oneself.

There is a connection betwwn being grateful and being happy. But who knows which one leads to the other?

Happiness is a full belly.

Activities that involves us in the natural world, whether feeding the birds, stroking the cat, or going for a country walk- help us to feel happier.

Happiness is a decision, involving choice, action, and faith.

Don’t envy other people’s happiness- what makes them happy might not have the same effect on you.

Whenever you feel creative, playful, or silly, you are close to being happy.

Happiness is a state of mind that is open, friendly, and positive.

The original meaning of the word ‘happiness’ is ‘good fortune’, or ‘luck’.

Gardens are the places we make to be happy in… with a little help from nature.

Happiness is the emotional aspect of health.

Being happy is known to boost the immune system.

Our happiness is threatened whenever we act in a way that is not true to ourselves.

In order to be happy, we must first know sadness.

Happiness is the absence of fear.

Achieving your goals is success; enjoying what you’ve achieved is happiness.

Sing when you’re happy- whatever you sound like!

Anticipation of a happy event can make you happier than the event itself.

Happiness is running outside after the first snowfall of winter, throwing snowballs, and making a snowman.

Remembered happiness is the most perfect.

A flower in bloom…a cloudless sky… a child’s laughter- these are the gifts that can make us happy, if we choose to let them.

Happiness is eating a peach, warmed by the sun.

Happiness is good for you. It produces endorphins, natural chemicals that act as painkillers.

Creativity is a catalyst for happiness.

 

What is Happiness?

When we approve of ourselves, rathar than always seeking approval from others, we find happiness.

The path to happiness is paved with dreams, but don’t forget to admire the beauty of the landscape as you travel.

Make your own happiness; it’s up to you.

If you make someone else happy, you make yourself happy. (Carpe diem-seize the day)

People in difficult circumstances can be happy, while those who live a life of ease may be miserable.

If you’re unhappy, don’t try to hide it. Express it, then let it go.

Love can turn sorrow into happiness.

To be happy, you need to know that others love you for yourself, just as you are.

Solitude may bring happiness.

If you fear losing happiness, you must have some happiness to lose.

Happiness is meeting an old friend you haven’t seen for years, and picking up where you left off.

Sometimes happiness is free; sometimes, it comes at a cost.

Everyone has a different idea of happiness. Follow your own path, not someone else’s.

We often make ourselves unhappy by wanting contradictory things in life.

Don’t feel guilty if the things are supposed to make you happy fail to do so.

Having achieved a special goal in life can make you happy, but there may also be a feeling of anti-climax- before you begin to aim for a new one.

Happiness: a calm awarness of the present moment, of sensation, consciousness, thoughts, and perception.

The glass is half full for some people, half empty for others.

Becoming happy may simply involve a change of perspective.

A loving family and friends…that’s happiness.

Be happy you’re alive!

No one can be unhappy all the time, just as no one can be happy all the time.

Nature surviving in glorious simplicity makes us happy.

The person who lives in their own home, eats and lives simply, and has debt to anyone, is truly happy.

There is no way to happiness; happiness is the way.

You can’t expect to be happy all the time. Human beings are not made that way.

Make happiness your goal, and do whatever it takes to achieve it.

Don’t try to define what happiness is; instead, think about what makes you unhappy, and try to change it.

Happiness is a warm puppy.

Nurturing and loving someone is the key to happiness.

Once our basic needs are satisfied, our level of wealth has no effect on how happy we are.

Those who are valued by their community are often happier than those who achieve public success.

Listen to the purr of a cat: that’s the sound of happiness.

Happiness grows when you notice it.

People travel far and wide looking for happiness.

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Am găsit fericirea

Ȋn fiecare an la trecerea dintre ani, obișnuiam să-mi pun o dorinţă. Una dintre miile pe care le aveam. Era o alegere dificilă, ce îmi consuma toată energia. Anul acesta m-am hotărât să las destinul să îmi îndeplinească nu doar una ci mai multe dorinţe, acelea care consideră că am nevoie cel mai mult. Știu că veţi spune, noi suntem răspunzători de viaţa noastră, de alegerile pe care le facem, de deciziile pe care le luăm. Să nu credeţi că am să stau cu mâna în sân și nu am să fac nimic doar că am simţit de atâtea ori forţa destinului încât mă cred în totalitate în el.

Bineînţeles că au început întrebările (de la oamenii apropiaţi) care mă cunosc, care vor să afle ce planuri am pe 2018, care vor să știe dacă ceea ce am să aleg este bine pentru mine. Spre surprinderea mea și a lor, nu am niciun plan încă făcut. În afară de cele 18 cărţi ce le-am ales să citesc anul acesta, nu am mai făcut nicio listă și știţi de ce? Pentru că trăiesc atât de mult în prezent încât îmi este și greu să alcătuiesc o listă cu lucrurile ce mi le doresc să le fac într-un an. O fi bine sau rău? Pentru mine este de bine, pentru că niciodată nu am fost atât de liniștită, nu mi-am impus nimic, nu mi-am setat un termen limită, nu mă dau peste cap să se întâmple. Am parte de o liniște ce mă bucur din plin. Mama îmi spune astăzi: “Tu ești precum marea: liniștită la ţărm și învolburată în larg.” Știu doar că dacă mă focuzez pe astăzi pot obţine tot ceea ce-mi doresc. Nu este nevoie să trăiesc în viitor ca să obţin ceea ce am nevoie.

În 2017 am invăţat că totul depinde de astăzi. Acest prezent leagă punţile trecutului cu cele ale viitorului.

Vă doresc ca în fiecare zi să vă rescrieţi povestea voastră, așa cum v-o imaginaţi voi dar nu uitaţi că într-o oarecare măsură și destinul joacă un rol.